“It’s not an excuse, it’s the truth!”

“I really am too busy!” “I seriously can’t afford to do that.” “Believe me, I’ve tried, but I just don’t have enough willpower.” 

We’ve all said stuff like this while defending why we aren’t doing the things we say we want to do. It’s a neat little formula: there’s that thing we want, there’s the reason we use when describing why we “can’t” do it, and then there’s the all-too-quick follow-up about how we’re different from all those other people who aren’t turning their goals into reality because while those people might be lazy and filled with excuses, in our case it isn’t an excuse, it’s the TRUTH!

And then we get to sit back and feel smug about how we have it harder than other people. We get to play the victim role because such and such person has no idea how tough it is to have kids/not be rich/work multiple jobs/whatever truth we’re clinging to as the reason why we can’t change.

We develop a lamenting tone whenever we talk about the changes we would make and the desires we would pursue “if only” our situation were different. Wah wah, poor me.

But you know what? Enough.

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